"God only wanted me if my parents wanted me, and they didn't plan this."
How it sounds in your head: If I wasn't planned by them, maybe God didn't plan me either. Maybe I slipped through, and now everyone is stuck with me. God works through parents' plans, and I wasn't in the plan.
"Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed. And in Your book they all were written, the days fashioned for me, when as yet there were none of them."
-- Psalm 139:16Theological confusion weapon from enemy, tying God's sovereignty to human planning, making Heaven reactive instead of proactive.
He's heard 'unplanned' language and assumes God's sovereignty depends on human intention. His young theology can't yet grasp that God's plan supersedes human planning.
Jephthah was the son of a prostitute, rejected by his family who said 'you shall have no inheritance...you are the son of another woman.' Yet God CHOSE this 'unwanted' man to deliver Israel and put him in the HALL OF FAITH (Hebrews 11:32).
I REFUSE the lie that I'm outside God's plan because I was unplanned by humans. IT IS WRITTEN that God SAW me before I was formed, WROTE my days before Day One, and FASHIONED my life before time began. Human planning is IRRELEVANT when Heaven has been planning since eternity. IT IS WRITTEN that I was CHOSEN before the foundation of the world - before planets, before parents, before PLANS. The BARAK covers me not because humans planned well, but because GOD planned PERFECTLY. I am not accidental. I am INTENTIONAL. I am not Plan B. I am THE plan.
Your Father is laughing at human calendars: 'My son, I didn't REACT to your conception - I ORCHESTRATED it. I've been planning this exact moment, with you in it, since before Adam took his first breath. You're not late. You're RIGHT ON TIME.'