"Skinny girls get chosen; I'll be alone forever if I don't lose weight."
How it sounds in your head: Boys like the thin girls. The pretty girls have boyfriends. If I don't get skinny, no one will ever want me. I'll be the friend, never the girlfriend. My body is why I'm alone.
"For the Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart."
-- 1 Samuel 16:7Cultural beauty standards worshiped as gatekeepers to love, empowered by spirits of rejection.
The girls who get attention ARE thinner. Every rom-com has a skinny lead. Social media couples are always both attractive. The math seems obvious to her.
Foreign widow, poor gleaner in fields, no status, no beauty mentioned, just loyal and hardworking. Boaz didn't choose her for appearance - he chose her for character, and she became the great-grandmother of DAVID and ancestor of JESUS.
I REFUSE the lie that I need to be skinny to be chosen. IT IS WRITTEN that man looks at outward appearance but God looks at the heart - and HIS opinion is the only one that matters. I am not in competition for scraps of male attention. I am a DAUGHTER OF THE KING, already chosen, already loved, already pursued by Heaven. IT IS WRITTEN that I am accepted in the Beloved. The right person will see my heart, not just my measurements. I don't shrink to be loved - I'm already loved at full size.
Your Father is whispering, 'You are not waiting to be chosen - you were chosen before the foundation of the world. The King of Heaven pursued you. Any boy who doesn't see your worth is BLIND, and you don't adjust yourself for blind men.'