"My parents were narcissists, and now I can't trust my own perception or decisions in relationships."
How it sounds in your head: They gaslighted me my whole childhood. I don't know what's real anymore. In my marriage, I second-guess everything—is he being manipulative or am I overreacting? Am I the crazy one? I can't trust my gut because they trained me not to.
"For 'who has known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct Him?' But we have the mind of Christ."
-- 1 Corinthians 2:16Trauma from parental manipulation creating distrust of self and inability to discern truth.
Years of being told her reality wasn't real have left her unable to trust her own discernment. Every conflict feels like a trap.
Married to Nabal, a harsh, evil, foolish man who endangered the whole household with his arrogance. Abigail INSTANTLY discerned truth, acted with wisdom, saved everyone, and when Nabal died, David married her—her discernment and courage were INSTANTLY rewarded and she became royalty.
I REFUSE the lie that my parents destroyed my discernment. IT IS WRITTEN that I have the MIND OF CHRIST, not the confusion they tried to instill. IT IS WRITTEN that the Spirit of truth GUIDES me into all truth—I am NOT left to figure this out alone. I TRUST the Holy Spirit within me to lead me, protect me, and show me truth. My perception is NOT broken—it is REDEEMED and led by GOD HIMSELF. I am NOT crazy—I am CLEAR because I have the mind of Christ.
The Father is not asking you to 'learn to trust yourself again'—He's giving you HIS MIND and HIS SPIRIT to guide you into all truth. You don't have to rely on your own understanding. He is ACTIVELY speaking to you, leading you, and you can TRUST His voice over every lie you were told.