"I'm the problem in every relationship. Something in me repels lasting love."
How it sounds in your head: Friendships fade, your marriage feels distant, your kids don't call. The common denominator is you. There's something fundamentally wrong with you that makes you impossible to love long-term.
"The LORD your God in your midst, the Mighty One, will save; He will rejoice over you with gladness, He will quiet you with His love, He will rejoice over you with singing."
-- Zephaniah 3:17Trauma-based lie rooted in abandonment, reinforced by relational disappointments over decades.
The evidence seems overwhelming—friends have drifted, your husband seems checked out, your kids are busy. Every relationship feels like proof that you're the broken variable.
Hagar was abandoned in the desert, rejected by everyone, alone and dying. God met her there and she called Him 'El Roi'—the God who SEES me. He didn't leave her; He gave her a future and a promise.
I REFUSE the lie that I'm the problem in every relationship. IT IS WRITTEN that God rejoices over me with SINGING—I am not repellent, I am DELIGHTFUL to Him. Human relationships may shift, but His love is permanent. IT IS WRITTEN in Hebrews 13:5 that He will NEVER leave me nor forsake me—NEVER means NEVER. I am not abandoned. I am not too much. The BARAK blessing makes me a blessing—I am loved, wanted, pursued. I receive His unwavering affection NOW.
Your Father sees every person who walked away and He's still running toward you. He's not analyzing what's wrong with you—He's singing over what's RIGHT about you. The problem isn't you; it's that you've been measuring divine love by human capacity.