"I was the other woman in an affair, so God won't trust me with a good man."
How it sounds in your head: I knew he was married and I did it anyway. I broke up a family. How could God ever trust me with a relationship after that? I don't deserve a faithful man—I wasn't faithful to someone else's marriage. I'm reaping what I sowed.
"If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."
-- 1 John 1:9Source: Karma-based theology that says you reap what you sow as punishment, turning grace into a legal transaction.
The guilt is massive, and every time she imagines a healthy relationship, the voice whispers that she doesn't deserve it because of what she did to someone else's marriage.
David committed adultery with Bathsheba, got her pregnant, murdered her husband to cover it up, and caused massive family devastation. God confronted the sin, but He didn't end the relationship. He blessed their NEXT son, Solomon, made him the wisest king in history, and Bathsheba became the Queen Mother with influence and honor. Redemption was INSTANT after repentance.
I REFUSE the lie that my affair disqualified me from a blessed relationship. IT IS WRITTEN that God is faithful to forgive AND cleanse me from ALL unrighteousness—not most of it, ALL of it. I am not under karma; I am under GRACE. IT IS WRITTEN that there is NO condemnation in Christ Jesus—not for my past, not for my affair, NONE. God is not withholding a good man because I wasn't good. He's preparing something EXCEEDINGLY ABUNDANTLY above what I destroyed because that's who HE is. I am the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus. I walk in the BARAK blessing—what I broke, God is RESTORING with interest.
The Father isn't punishing you with loneliness because of your affair—He's preparing a love story that will make you weep at His goodness. David and Bathsheba's relationship started in adultery and murder, and God made their son the WISEST KING. You think your past canceled His plan? He's writing REDEMPTION.