"At my age, I should have this figured out. It's embarrassing to still struggle with loneliness."
How it sounds in your head: You're in your sixties and still feel like a middle schooler at the lunch table looking for somewhere to sit. You see other women your age with solid friend groups and wonder what's wrong with you that you haven't built that by now. It feels pathetic to still be lonely at this stage.
"Being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ."
-- Philippians 1:6Religion + world: perfectionism applied to relational maturity; cultural lie that age equals automatic relational success.
You've had decades to figure this out and you're still struggling. Other women seem to have thriving social lives while you're home alone most evenings. The gap between where you are and where you think you should be feels like failure.
Abraham was 75 years old when God told him to leave everyone and everything he knew and go to a foreign land. At an age when most assume life is settled, God completely rearranged his entire relational and geographical world—and called it a blessing, not a crisis.
I REFUSE the lie that I should have friendship figured out by now. IT IS WRITTEN that He who began a good work in me will complete it until Jesus returns, and I am NOT behind schedule. There is no age limit on God's relational provision. IT IS WRITTEN that His mercies are new EVERY morning, and that includes THIS morning at THIS age with THIS loneliness. The Father is doing a good work RIGHT NOW, and my current season is setup, not failure. I am the BARAK blessed, and favor doesn't have an expiration date. Friendship is coming at the PERFECT time.
Your Father isn't shaking His head at your loneliness—He's orchestrating the most beautiful relational chapter of your life right now, in your sixties, where every connection will feel like it was worth the wait. He's bringing friendships so rich you'll understand why the timing had to be now, not decades ago.