"You're too old to experience romance, passion, or deep intimacy in marriage again."
How it sounds in your head: The decades of marriage feel more like roommates than lovers. Bodies have changed. The spark you once had feels like a distant memory. Maybe passion is for the young and you should just be content with companionship.
"Set me as a seal upon your heart, as a seal upon your arm; for love is as strong as death, jealousy as cruel as the grave; its flames are flames of fire, a most vehement flame. Many waters cannot quench love, nor can the floods drown it."
-- Song of Solomon 8:6-7Cultural narrative that romance and desire end with aging, contradicting God's design for lifelong covenant intimacy.
Hormones have changed. Bodies look different. Long-term marriage has routines that replaced pursuit. Society portrays older couples as sexless caretakers, not passionate lovers.
Sarah laughed at the promise of a child, saying 'After I have grown old, shall I have pleasure, my lord being old also?' God gave her PLEASURE—conception, intimacy, and passion—at 90 years old. Her body functioned as a young woman's.
I REFUSE the lie that passion has an expiration date. IT IS WRITTEN that love is as strong as death, its flames are FIRE, and many waters cannot quench it. Sarah experienced pleasure and intimacy at 90—God RESTORED her body's function. IT IS WRITTEN that God restores the years the locust has eaten (Joel 2:25). What the enemy stole through years, weariness, or routine, my Father RESTORES. I receive resurrection power in my marriage—not settling, but BREAKTHROUGH. This covenant was forged in fire and that fire is REIGNITED now.
Your Father doesn't look at your marriage and see terminal boredom—He sees a covenant He's JEALOUS to protect and EXCITED to restore. He's the God of NEW wine, and He's pouring it into your marriage NOW. Where you see ashes, He's bringing BEAUTY (Isaiah 61:3).