"People only want me around when I'm useful, fun, or convenient."
How it sounds in your head: You're the friend people text when they need something or when their real friends are busy. When you're struggling or not entertaining, the silence is deafening. You're tolerated, not treasured. Useful, not wanted.
"But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us."
-- Romans 5:8Enemy transactional lie making you believe all love is conditional and performance-based.
You've tested it: when you stop initiating or can't show up as the fun version, people disappear. The evidence is clear—your value is in what you provide, not who you are.
A blind beggar with nothing to offer—couldn't work, couldn't see, just needed. Jesus stopped everything for him, healed him instantly, and said, 'Your faith has made you well.' Valued at his neediest, not his most useful.
I REFUSE the lie that I'm only wanted when I'm useful. IT IS WRITTEN that while I was still a sinner, Christ died for me—my value isn't in what I produce. I am TREASURED for who I am, not tolerated for what I provide. IT IS WRITTEN that there is NO condemnation for me in Christ—I don't have to perform to belong. The Father ran toward the broke, broken prodigal and threw a party. I am a branch connected to the Vine; my value is POSITIONAL, not FUNCTIONAL. The BARAK blessing isn't earned—it protected liars and deceivers, and it covers me completely.
Your Father didn't wait for you to clean up, show up fun, or have something to offer. He ran toward you when you were still a mess, and He's throwing a party over you right now—not because of what you can do, but because you're HIS.