"My dad's anger taught me that love is dangerous and I should never trust men."
How it sounds in your head: You learned early that his mood could shift in seconds. That raised voice, that slammed door, that rage over nothing. Now every man feels like a landmine. You flinch before they even move. Love and fear are the same thing to you.
"There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love."
-- 1 John 4:18Trauma translating one man's brokenness into all men's character, the enemy building walls around her heart disguised as protection.
She's walked on eggshells around his temper for years. She's seen him explode over minor things. She associates masculinity with volatility and love with conditional safety.
Hagar was abused by Sarah, used by Abraham, then abandoned pregnant in the desert with no protection. God found her there and she named Him 'El Roi—the God who SEES me,' because even when human love failed violently, God pursued her with tender care.
I REFUSE the lie that my father's anger defines what love is or what men are. IT IS WRITTEN that perfect love casts OUT fear, not creates it. My Heavenly Father's love has no rage, no conditions, no landmines. His love is SAFE. IT IS WRITTEN that I am hidden in Christ, surrounded by perfect love that never shifts or explodes. My father's brokenness does not write my future. The Father who SEES me is teaching me what true love actually looks like—steady, safe, unchanging.
Your Father sees every moment you flinched, every time you held your breath waiting for rage, and He's whispering 'You are SAFE with Me.' He's not like your earthly father. He doesn't explode. His love is the calm you've been craving your whole life.