"I'm too competitive and intense. Girls should be more cooperative and easygoing."
How it sounds in your head: I hate losing and I always want to win. Everyone says I take things too seriously and need to relax. Maybe my drive is ugly and unfeminine.
"Do you not know that those who run in a race all run, but one receives the prize? Run in such a way that you may obtain it."
-- 1 Corinthians 9:24Enemy + world: Using gender stereotypes to disarm the warrior in her, convincing her that strength and drive are masculine and therefore wrong in a girl.
She's called 'too intense' for the same competitiveness that gets boys called 'champions.' Her desire to win is labeled as 'not being a team player' while boys' competitiveness is celebrated.
Jael saw the enemy general Sisera and didn't wait for a man to handle it—she drove a tent peg through his skull with her own hands, winning the battle. Deborah sang her praises as 'most blessed among women' for her fierce, decisive, violent victory.
I REFUSE the lie that my competitiveness is wrong. IT IS WRITTEN to run in such a way that I obtain the prize—I was built to WIN, not to politely lose. I am not too intense. I am FIERCE. IT IS WRITTEN that I press toward the goal, and my drive is God-given, not a flaw to apologize for. I declare the BARAK blessing over my strength—I am blessed in competition, blessed in my intensity, blessed coming in fighting and going out victorious. I am the head and not the tail. My desire to win reflects the Father who conquers, and I will not shrink back to make others comfortable. I am a daughter of the King, and I was born to REIGN.
The Father is running toward you with a championship belt, not a participation ribbon. He's shouting 'That's my girl!' while the world whispers 'too much,' and heaven is standing in ovation.