"I was sexually assaulted and somehow it was my fault—what I wore, where I was, how much I drank."
How it sounds in your head: They'd ask what you were wearing, why you were there, how much you had to drink. You replay that night looking for the moment you could've prevented it. Maybe if you'd been more careful, less trusting, more sober—this is on you.
"I will seek what was lost and bring back what was driven away, bind up the broken and strengthen what was sick; but I will destroy the fat and the strong, and feed them in judgment."
-- Ezekiel 34:16Victim-blaming culture merged with purity theology, enemy twisting violation into self-condemnation, making you responsible for evil done to you.
You've absorbed years of 'modesty protects you' messages and 'boys will be boys' excuses. If clothing prevents assault, then your outfit caused it. The logic is sick but pervasive.
Tamar was raped by her half-brother Amnon and Scripture explicitly states she was innocent—she resisted, she cried out, she was violated. God's Word records her ripped robe and ashes as symbols of injustice done TO her, not BY her.
I REFUSE the lie that my assault was my fault. IT IS WRITTEN that God seeks what was lost, binds up the broken, and brings judgment on the strong who violate the vulnerable. I was the victim, not the criminal. My clothing, my location, my choices did NOT cause someone else's evil—their choice did. IT IS WRITTEN in Deuteronomy 22:25-27 that a woman who is violated is innocent. Scripture defends me. The BARAK protects the covenant child even through attack—God's promise doesn't fail because someone violated me. I am not damaged goods; I am a daughter being restored.
The Father didn't watch your assault and critique your outfit. He wept with rage at what was stolen, and He's not waiting for you to 'get over it'—He's already prepared justice and binding up of wounds available right now.