"I need to forgive everyone who hurt me before God will open my womb."
How it sounds in your head: Until you forgive your abuser, your bully, the person who traumatized you—God's hands are tied. Your womb is closed because your heart is closed. You have to let it all go and mean it before He'll bless you with children.
"And you, being dead in your trespasses and the uncircumcision of your flesh, He has made alive together with Him, having forgiven you ALL trespasses."
-- Colossians 2:13Religion—Old Covenant reciprocal forgiveness that makes God's action dependent on human performance.
She's heard Matthew 6:15 weaponized: 'If you don't forgive, neither will your Father forgive you.' It sounds like God holds blessings hostage until she emotionally processes trauma she's not ready to face. The pressure to 'forgive and move on' feels like another hoop to jump through.
Leah was unloved, rejected by Jacob, in pain her entire marriage—yet God opened her womb IMMEDIATELY and she bore six sons and a daughter. Her fertility wasn't tied to forgiving Jacob or healing from rejection; it flowed from God's compassion.
I REFUSE the lie that my womb is closed until I perfectly forgive everyone who hurt me. IT IS WRITTEN: Colossians 2:13 - God forgave me ALL trespasses FIRST. My forgiveness of others flows FROM being forgiven, not TO earn forgiveness. Leah was unloved and hurting, yet her womb opened IMMEDIATELY—six sons while still in pain. IT IS WRITTEN: Ephesians 4:32 - I forgive EVEN AS God forgave me, meaning I operate from a position of ALREADY FORGIVEN, ALREADY BLESSED. My trauma doesn't close my womb. My womb is under the barak blessing, opened by covenant, not by my emotional healing timeline.
Father isn't waiting for you to 'get over' trauma before releasing babies. He opened Leah's womb while she was still unloved and hurting. He's opening yours NOW, and healing will come as you receive His love—not as a prerequisite.