"I need to fix my parents' marriage by being perfect."
How it sounds in your head: Maybe if I'm really good and don't cause problems, they'll stop fighting. If I get straight A's and don't ask for anything, maybe they'll be happy again. It feels like it's partly my fault.
"Unless the LORD builds the house, they labor in vain who build it."
-- Psalm 127:1Source: Trauma lie from childhood—taking responsibility for adult problems she has zero power over.
Kids naturally think everything revolves around them, and when she's good they sometimes fight less, creating false correlation. She feels powerless so she grasps for control.
Samuel was a godly boy serving in the temple while Eli's sons were corrupt and Eli's house was under judgment. Samuel's righteousness didn't fix or stop God's judgment on Eli's family—he was loved and called by God completely separate from their dysfunction.
I REFUSE the lie that I must fix my parents' marriage. IT IS WRITTEN that unless the Lord builds the house, we labor in vain. I am the CHILD, not the builder. Their marriage is NOT my responsibility. IT IS WRITTEN that I am already perfectly loved by Father God regardless of what happens at home. I release this burden I was never meant to carry. I am FREE to be a kid. God is the repairer of broken things, not me. I rest in His goodness!
Father is running toward you saying, 'Sweet daughter, put that burden DOWN. You weren't built to carry it. Be a child. Play. Laugh. I've got your parents' marriage in My hands—you just be loved by Me.'