"I can forgive others, but forgiving myself is selfish and prideful."
How it sounds in your head: It feels arrogant to just decide I'm forgiven and move on. Who am I to let myself off the hook? That's just self-centered justification.
"Who shall bring a charge against God's elect? It is God who justifies. Who is he who condemns? It is Christ who died, and furthermore is also risen, who is even at the right hand of God, who also makes intercession for us."
-- Romans 8:33-34Religious false humility teaching that self-condemnation is humility, making her believe self-forgiveness is pride.
She's been taught that focusing on her own freedom is selfish and that true humility means staying low and broken. Self-forgiveness feels like self-exaltation.
Paul called himself the least of the apostles, unworthy to be called an apostle because he persecuted the church. Yet he IMMEDIATELY followed with, 'But by the grace of God I am what I am'—he didn't camp in unworthiness; he received grace and moved forward.
I REFUSE the lie that forgiving myself is prideful. IT IS WRITTEN that if God justifies me, no one—including me—has the right to condemn. It is not pride to agree with God; it is pride to argue with His verdict. IT IS WRITTEN that He is faithful to forgive and cleanse me. If He says I'm clean, I receive it. The BARAK blessing rests on me because of His nature, not mine. Humility is receiving His grace, not rejecting it.
The Father isn't asking you to grovel in false humility—He's asking you to be humble enough to receive what He's offering. Paul didn't stay in unworthiness; he said, 'By grace I am what I am,' and kept moving.