"Everyone will eventually hurt me if I let them get close"
How it sounds in your head: It's only a matter of time before they see the real me and decide I'm too much or not enough. People always leave once they really know you. It's safer to keep everyone at arm's length.
"For He Himself has said, 'I will never leave you nor forsake you.'"
-- Hebrews 13:5Enemy generalizing specific betrayal into universal law, prophesying rejection over every relationship
She's already experienced this pattern multiple times, so her brain predicts it will happen again. The fear feels like wisdom because it's dressed up as self-protection.
Peter DENIED Jesus three times, cursing and swearing he didn't know Him—the ultimate betrayal of friendship. Jesus didn't reject Peter or make him earn his way back; He cooked him breakfast on the beach and restored him with three declarations of love, immediately trusting him with His sheep.
I REFUSE the lie that everyone will hurt me! IT IS WRITTEN that He will NEVER leave me nor forsake me—that's a promise with NO expiration date. The Father sees my fear of being hurt again and He's not frustrated with my walls; He's gently showing me they're not necessary anymore. I am covered by the Abrahamic blessing that protected Abraham even when HE was the one who lied and failed others. God is bringing people who will stay, who will see me fully and love me completely. IT IS WRITTEN that perfect love casts out fear—and that love is ALREADY working in my life. I am safe to be known, safe to be loved, and safe to trust again.
The Father isn't waiting for you to be brave enough to lower your walls—He's showing you they're unnecessary because He's already positioned Himself as your protection. He's bringing people who will prove that 'everyone' doesn't include them.