"Every guy I like ends up with my friend or someone else."
How it sounds in your head: You're always the bridesmaid, never the bride. The guys you're interested in see you as the cool friend while they date your roommate. You're tired of being picked last or not picked at all while watching everyone around you get chosen.
"The LORD your God in your midst, the Mighty One, will save; He will rejoice over you with gladness, He will quiet you with His love, He will rejoice over you with singing."
-- Zephaniah 3:17Enemy using comparison and rejection to make you feel like God's blessing is for everyone except you.
It's happened multiple times - you catch feelings, he dates your friend. You watch from the sidelines wondering what they have that you don't. It feels like a pattern you can't break.
Esther was an orphaned Jewish girl in exile, seemingly nothing special compared to the most beautiful women gathered from the entire Persian empire. Yet when the king saw her, he loved her MORE than all the others and made her queen IMMEDIATELY - she obtained favor above them all.
I REFUSE the lie that I'm always overlooked. IT IS WRITTEN that the Lord my God rejoices over me with gladness and singing - I am His delight. The God of the universe is SINGING over me right now. IT IS WRITTEN that I am precious in His sight, honored, and loved. I am not defined by who picked my friend instead of me. I am the seed of Abraham, covered by the BARAK blessing, chosen by the King of Kings. The same God who made orphaned Esther a QUEEN is writing my chosen story right now.
Your Father isn't keeping score of who got picked over you. He's rejoicing over you with SINGING while preparing someone who will choose you SO decisively that all those 'almosts' will make sense as divine protection from the wrong ones.