"Being single means I'm not whole or complete as a person yet."
How it sounds in your head: You hear 'you complete me' in every romance movie and it sinks in - you're currently incomplete, half a person, waiting for your other half. Something fundamental is missing from your life and you won't be a full person until someone chooses you to be their person. You're in waiting mode, on pause, incomplete.
"And you are complete in Him, who is the head of all principality and power."
-- Colossians 2:10World - culture teaching that romantic relationship is required for wholeness and identity completion.
The entire narrative of society says single people are 'looking' and coupled people have 'found it.' You're in the 'before' picture, incomplete, still searching for the thing that will make you whole.
Anna was widowed after only 7 years of marriage, then single for 84 YEARS - and she didn't spend those decades incomplete or waiting. She served God with fasting and prayers, and GOD CHOSE HER to be one of the first to see and prophesy over baby Jesus. Her singleness didn't disqualify her; it positioned her.
I REFUSE the lie that I'm incomplete without a relationship. IT IS WRITTEN that I AM complete in Christ - not will be, not partially, but COMPLETE right now. My identity isn't 'half a person waiting' - it's WHOLE DAUGHTER, fully loved, fully seen, fully enough. IT IS WRITTEN that I am blessed with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ, which means I'm not lacking a single thing for wholeness. I am BARAK-blessed, fully favored, fully resourced, fully complete. A relationship won't complete me because I'm already whole in the One who is the head of all principality and power. My Father isn't waiting to make me complete - He's running toward me declaring that I already AM.
Your Father sees you feeling like a half-person and He's running toward you with the robe that says COMPLETE. Not after someone proposes, not after you find 'the one,' but RIGHT NOW - because in Him, you've always been whole, you've always been enough, you've always been finished.