Toxic Family Patterns

19-24 (Young Adult) Female

"My family has always been poor—wealth is for other people, not us."

LIE: Poverty is my family's identity. TRUTH: Christ redeemed me from poverty's curse—Abraham's blessing is mine. (Gal ...

See Truth Galatians 3:13-14

50-59 (Fifties) Female

"My mother's critical spirit has infected me—I criticize everyone just like she did."

LIE: I'm critical like my mother. TRUTH: I'm a new creation—my mouth imparts GRACE. Kindness is automatic fruit from t...

See Truth Ephesians 4:29

10-12 (Pre-Teen) Female

"Dysfunction is just part of being in a family—this is as good as it gets."

LIE: Dysfunction is normal family life. TRUTH: God wills you prosper in ALL things (3 John 2). Peace is your inheritance...

See Truth 3 John 1:2

16-18 (Late Teen) Male

"I'll end up just like my dad—angry, distant, unable to connect."

LIE: I'll become my father. TRUTH: You bear NO guilt of your father—you're born of GOD with HIS nature available (Ezek...

See Truth Ezekiel 18:20

19-24 (Young Adult) Female

"Every woman in my family has struggled with their body—I'm destined for the same eating disorder b..."

LIE: My family's body struggles are my destiny. TRUTH: I'm fearfully and wonderfully made—RIGHT NOW, as is. (Psalm 139...

See Truth Psalm 139:14

13-15 (Early Teen) Female

"I'm destined to repeat my parents' mistakes because this is all I've seen modeled."

LIE: I can only repeat what I've seen. TRUTH: Holy Spirit TEACHES you all things—you have a perfect model INSIDE you. ...

See Truth John 14:26

13-15 (Early Teen) Female

"Everyone in my family struggles with this, so I will too—it's just our lot."

LIE: My family's struggle is my destiny. TRUTH: Christ REDEEMED you from every family curse—you're Abraham's seed now....

See Truth Galatians 3:13

90+ (Nineties Plus) Female

"The mental illness in my family is a demonic curse I failed to break through prayer."

LIE: Mental illness proves demonic curse and failed prayers. TRUTH: Nothing separates from God's love (Rom 8:39). Illnes...

See Truth Romans 8:38-39

25-29 (Late Twenties) Male

"No one in my family has ever been financially successful so why would I be?"

LIE: My family's poverty is my destiny. TRUTH: I'm Abraham's seed—his blessing is mine by promise, not genetics. Galat...

See Truth Galatians 3:29

25-29 (Late Twenties) Male

"My family has a history of early death so I probably won't live long either."

LIE: My family dies young so I will too. TRUTH: God promises to satisfy me with LONG LIFE. Psalm 91:16

See Truth Psalm 91:16

40-49 (Forties) Male

"Addiction runs in my family—alcoholism destroyed my grandfather and uncle, now it's destroying me ..."

LIE: Addiction is my family curse. TRUTH: You're a new creation—old bloodline passed away, sin has no dominion under g...

See Truth 2 Corinthians 5:17

90+ (Nineties Plus) Male

"I'm dying and my family will inherit my mess, my debts, my failures."

LIE: Leaving family with my mess. TRUTH: God paid widow's lifetime debt in one day—provision is HIS job (2 Kings 4:1-7...

See Truth 2 Kings 4:1-7

13-15 (Early Teen) Female

"My family has always been poor, so I'll probably struggle financially my whole life too."

LIE: Family poverty means I'll struggle financially. TRUTH: You're Abraham's SEED—BARAK blessing is yours by covenant,...

See Truth Galatians 3:29

70-79 (Seventies) Male

"My family has always been poor, and wealth just isn't in our DNA or destiny."

LIE: Poverty is genetic destiny. TRUTH: You're Abraham's seed, heirs by PROMISE—blessed by covenant. Gal 3:29

See Truth Galatians 3:29

10-12 (Pre-Teen) Female

"No one in my family has ever been successful—I won't be either."

LIE: Family lack means I won't succeed. TRUTH: God makes you head, not tail, above only (Deut 28:13). Covenant, not cred...

See Truth Deuteronomy 28:13

30-39 (Thirties) Male

"Nobody in my family ever hears from God clearly. Spiritual dullness is just our family trait."

LIE: Family spiritual dullness limits me. TRUTH: HIS SHEEP HEAR—you're His sheep, you HEAR clearly. John 10:27

See Truth John 10:27

80-89 (Eighties) Male

"My family is too broken for God to use; we're the testimony of what NOT to do."

LIE: Your family is too broken to use. TRUTH: ALL THINGS work together for good—God specializes in broken families—R...

See Truth Romans 8:28

13-15 (Early Teen) Male

"My dad's anger lives in me now and I'll rage at my own kids someday"

LIE: Dad's anger is in your DNA. TRUTH: You're a new creation—his patterns died with your old man. (2 Cor 5:17)

See Truth 2 Corinthians 5:17

25-29 (Late Twenties) Female

"My family's history of abuse means I'll either become an abuser or keep attracting toxic people."

LIE: Abuse history means I'll repeat it. TRUTH: No weapon formed against you will prosper—that includes past abuse (Is...

See Truth Isaiah 54:17

50-59 (Fifties) Male

"My family never finishes anything—I'll fail at this business like they all did"

LIE: Family quit-pattern will make me fail. TRUTH: God completes what He starts IN me—I'm a finisher (Phil 1:6)

See Truth Philippians 1:6