"Women my age want established men. I can't compete with divorced guys."
How it sounds in your head: The dating pool in your thirties is full of divorced men who already own homes, have careers figured out, know how to be husbands. You're competing with guys who've already done this, while you're starting from scratch. They have experience you don't.
"Delight yourself also in the LORD, and He shall give you the desires of your heart."
-- Psalm 37:4World's system says experience and assets determine value instead of covenant positioning and God's favor.
You see women your age dating divorced men who seem more 'together.' They've been married, owned houses, have the resume. You feel like a rookie competing with veterans for the same opportunity.
David was the YOUNGEST, least experienced, not even invited to the battle. His older brothers were seasoned soldiers. Yet David got the victory, the position, and eventually the kingdom—not through competition, but through ANOINTING.
I REFUSE the lie that I must compete with other men. IT IS WRITTEN that God GIVES me the desires of my heart—not based on my resume, but His PROMISE. I don't win through competition; I RECEIVE through covenant. IT IS WRITTEN that I am BLESSED above and not beneath. The BARAK blessing doesn't rank me against others—it SETS ME APART. The woman for me recognizes ANOINTING, not just assets. I am chosen by GOD, not by comparison.
The Father isn't running a competition where the most qualified wins. He's orchestrating ASSIGNMENTS where the woman He prepared for YOU will recognize YOU, regardless of who else is available. David wasn't the biggest—he was the ANOINTED.