"We're just too old and tired to do the work marriage requires now."
How it sounds in your head: Fixing this would take energy you don't have. Date nights, deep conversations, vulnerability—it all sounds exhausting. You've raised kids, built careers, survived crises. Maybe you've earned the right to just coast separately in the same house until one of you dies.
"But those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint."
-- Isaiah 40:31Enemy's lie that marriage is work to be performed rather than fruit that flows from abiding—that age excuses covenant neglect.
Everything hurts. You're managing medications, doctor appointments, aging parents. Adding 'save marriage' to the list feels impossible. You don't have the energy you had at thirty. Maybe this is just reality—people in their sixties shouldn't be expected to fight for passion.
At eighty-five years old, Caleb said 'I am as strong this day as on the day Moses sent me; just as my strength was then, so now is my strength for war.' He didn't coast—he took mountains. Age didn't diminish him; covenant sustained him.
I REFUSE the lie that age excuses covenant neglect. IT IS WRITTEN that those who wait on the Lord RENEW strength—not conserve, RENEW. I am not drawing from my reserves; I am drawing from HIS INEXHAUSTIBLE SUPPLY. IT IS WRITTEN that He restores my youth like the eagle's—at sixty-five, I soar higher than I did at twenty-five. I am under the BARAK blessing that sustained Caleb at eighty-five to take mountains. My marriage isn't coasting to death; it's mounting up with wings.
The Father isn't asking you to manufacture energy from your exhausted body—He's breathing eagle strength into your weariness, making you stronger NOW than you were at thirty. While you see age as limitation, He sees Caleb at eighty-five saying 'Give me this mountain,' and He's handing you the same supernatural strength.