"My dad's anger issues mean I'm destined to have the same explosive temper."
How it sounds in your head: I see dad blow up all the time. I'm starting to feel that rage inside me too. My body is changing and I'm getting angrier. Maybe I'm just becoming him and can't stop it.
"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new."
-- 2 Corinthians 5:17Source: psychological determinism that makes behavior about DNA instead of divine nature.
Puberty is flooding his body with testosterone and he's feeling emotions he's never experienced. He sees the pattern in his father and feels powerless against biology and modeling.
Moses murdered a man in anger and had to flee for his life. Forty years later, God called him and transformed him into 'the meekest man on earth' - complete temperament transformation.
I REFUSE the lie that my father's anger determines my emotional future. IT IS WRITTEN that I am a new creation in Christ - old things passed away, including destructive anger patterns. I have the FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT, which is self-control. IT IS WRITTEN that I am blessed with every spiritual blessing in Christ, including peace and gentleness. The BARAK blessing that rested on Jacob the deceiver and Abraham the liar rests on me, and it includes transformation of character by grace, not effort. I am not becoming my father - I am becoming like my Heavenly Father. My emotions are redeemed.
Father is running toward you with the fruit of the Spirit in His hands, not waiting for you to master your temper first. He's declaring 'SELF-CONTROL IS YOURS' before you even ask.