"I need to let them hit rock bottom before God can work in their life."
How it sounds in your head: If you keep helping, you're enabling. If you stay in contact, you're preventing the crisis that will wake them up. Tough love means complete withdrawal until they're desperate enough to change. God can't move until they reach their lowest point, and you helping delays that necessary bottom.
"Or do you despise the riches of His goodness, forbearance, and longsuffering, not knowing that the goodness of God leads you to repentance?"
-- Romans 2:4World's psychology that makes suffering the catalyst for change instead of the goodness of God, violating the Father's nature.
The boundaries books say enabling prevents consequences. You've seen people change after losing everything. The prodigal came home from a pig pen, not a comfortable hotel. Withdrawing feels like the only leverage left, and experts say comfort delays transformation.
Zacchaeus was at the TOP of his career as chief tax collector, wealthy and successful in the world's eyes, when Jesus called him down and invited Himself to dinner. Jesus didn't wait for him to hit rock bottom—He pursued him at his PEAK and love transformed him instantly.
I REFUSE the lie that my child needs rock bottom before God can reach them. IT IS WRITTEN: 'The GOODNESS of God leads you to repentance,' not severity. I will not withhold love believing that coldness creates change. The Father RAN to the prodigal while he was still FAR OFF—He didn't wait for maximum desperation. IT IS WRITTEN: 'Love never fails' (1 Corinthians 13:8). My love, empowered by Holy Spirit, is a magnet pulling them home, not an enabler delaying it. The BARAK blessing means God's favor can reach them anywhere, anytime, in any condition. I declare breakthrough can happen TODAY, at their highest point or lowest, because God's goodness is the catalyst, not their circumstances.
The Father isn't waiting for your child to hit bottom. He's pursuing them right now, at whatever level they're at, orchestrating encounters with His goodness that will melt what judgment never could—because He knows that kindness, not crisis, is what truly changes hearts.