"God allowed this because our family wasn't praying or going to church enough"
How it sounds in your head: We used to skip church sometimes. We didn't have family devotions like other families. Maybe if we'd been more spiritual, God would've protected us from this.
"For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord."
-- Romans 8:38-39Transactional theology where God's protection is earned through religious activity rather than covenant blood.
She's reverse-engineering the divorce, looking for controllable variables that would've changed the outcome.
Mephibosheth was crippled, from a defeated family, hiding in obscurity with zero claim to blessing. David sought him out and INSTANTLY restored all of Saul's land, gave him permanent place at the king's table, and treated him like a son—pure grace, zero merit.
I REFUSE the lie that our family's church attendance affected God's protection. IT IS WRITTEN that nothing can separate me from God's love—not divorce, not spiritual performance, NOTHING. God's covenant isn't maintained by my works; it's sealed by Jesus' blood. IT IS WRITTEN that we are saved by grace through faith, not of works. The divorce happened through human free will, not divine abandonment. The BARAK blessing is mine by covenant, not behavior. I am blessed coming in and going out.
The Father isn't punishing your family for missed devotions—He's seeking you out like David sought Mephibosheth, restoring you to the King's table, not because you earned it but because covenant love pursues.