"Even if we stay together, it will never be good—just tolerable at best."
How it sounds in your head: Maybe you can coexist civilly but the dream is dead. You've lowered expectations to simply not fighting constantly. The best you can hope for is peaceful roommates, maybe eventually friendly, but the passionate, thriving marriage you imagined will never be yours. You've accepted 'good enough' as the ceiling.
"Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us."
-- Ephesians 3:20Enemy caps expectation at survival level to prevent you reaching for abundance.
Every attempt at breakthrough has resulted in minimal improvement followed by regression. You've made peace with low-grade disappointment as your normal and convincing yourself it could be worse feels like wisdom, not settling.
Job lost EVERYTHING—children, wealth, health, respect. The destruction was total. When God restored, He didn't just replace what was lost—He gave DOUBLE of everything he'd had before. The end of Job's life was MORE BLESSED than the beginning. God's restoration exceeded the original by 200%—not tolerable, but ABUNDANT beyond the first version.
I REFUSE the lie that tolerability is my ceiling. IT IS WRITTEN that God does EXCEEDINGLY ABUNDANTLY above all I ask or think—my limited expectations don't limit His unlimited power. My marriage is not headed for survival but for ABUNDANCE. IT IS WRITTEN that the latter glory will be greater than the former—my best days are AHEAD, not behind. I am Abraham's seed under the BARAK blessing where God gave Isaac DOUBLE what Abraham lost, where Job's end exceeded his beginning. God doesn't do 'good enough'; He does EXCEEDINGLY ABOVE. My marriage will be a testimony of ABUNDANT restoration, not tolerable coexistence.
The Father isn't nodding at your lowered expectations—He's laughing like Sarah will laugh, because what He's about to do exceeds what you've dared imagine. He didn't bring you this far for tolerable; He's preparing you for the BEST WINE served last that will make people ask why you saved it until now.